The other day I was mindlessly surfing the internet and I came across a statement made by lululemon founder Chip Wilson in regards to some of their pants being too sheer and/or pilling, and it really got my goat.
“They don’t work for some women’s bodies. It’s really about the rubbing through the thighs, how much pressure is there over a period of time and how much they use it.”
So basically if your thighs rub together, lululemon pants may not be for you. Also? Reading between the lines? You’re probably fat.
I have two pairs of lululemon pants (both bought when I had a gift card because I cannot routinely spend $100 on pants), one regular flared yoga pant, and one pair of cropped tights. I’ve had them both for a couple years, and the tights have not pilled at all. They’re great. But the pants have pilled ALL OVER. Not just the thighs, all over. Pretty sure my entire legs are not rubbing together, but anyway. I have had similar pants from less expensive brands (Joe Fresh, for example) that have not pilled or worn out at all, and I’ve had them for the same amount of time.
Just pointing that out. The problem may not actually be with me. It may be with the pants.
But the pants are not really why I’m writing this. This general thigh rubbing statement was just the tipping point for me. All pants wear out in certain places – thighs, knees, bum, wherever. It’s expected. But what Mr. Wilson is saying here is that lulu’s pants specifically do not work for the body type of SOME women. It’s not the pants, it’s the women whose thighs rub together. So to me this comes back to that stupid “thigh gap” ideal that I keep hearing so much about. That if you are fit, your thighs don’t touch.
This is not brand new information. I have been progressively hearing this ridiculous thigh gap argument for years and this was the final breaking point for me. The point that made me cave and decide that I finally need to say something. Whether or not your thighs touch has NOTHING to do with your size, your weight, or how healthy you are. Nothing. The thigh gap is a stupid ideal that not everyone can achieve.
I’ll use myself as an example. My thighs touch. True, I’m not incredibly fit. But guess what? My thighs will always touch. That is the way my body is. I’ll never have a gap. The only way I could ever get my thighs to not touch is if I was at an extremely unhealthy body weight. It’s not natural for me. My thighs were built for touching!
It took me a long time to realize this and accept this fact, and I blame YOU for that, society. For making the “thigh gap” the new way of measuring whether or not you’re fat. IT’S NOT. I have even heard my own friends say something along the lines of “My thighs touch, I’m fat,” or “It’s my goal to have a gap between my thighs.” Why?! Why is this your goal? Who says this is the ideal? Seriously, who came up with this idea? Because I would like to punch them a few inches above their thigh gap.
Years ago an ex boyfriend offhandedly mentioned to me that he really enjoyed a nice “thigh gap,” on a woman. The thigh gap that I did not have, and that he knew I did not have (it was probably a dig at me, and I said ex boyfriend, current boyfriend would never, ever say something like this to me). I would like to say that comment didn’t affect me at all, but this was a long time ago and I can remember him saying it to me like it was yesterday, so clearly it stuck with me. And I remember lamenting my own thighs for touching. Why do my thighs touch? Maybe he would like me more if my thighs didn’t touch? Maybe I would be more attractive if my thighs didn’t touch? What can I do to make my thighs not touch?
NO. These are not healthy thoughts because they are things about my body that I cannot change. My thighs touch because THAT IS MY BODY TYPE.
Also a few years ago, I was at an appointment with my doctor and we were talking about weight, and he said that yes, I was around the top of my weight for my height, but not to put too much stock into that, because I was fit, and I am always going to weigh a lot because I am tall and big boned. He then put his fingers around my wrist and said “See? I can’t touch my fingers. You are big boned.”
At the time I was all “Thanks a lot for calling me big boned, ya big jerk,” but he was right. I am big boned. It’s better that I accept this than to be in denial. The size of my bones is not something I can ever change about myself. I’ll always be big boned, and my thighs will always touch, and maybe I’ll always have a bit of a double chin. And you know what I have to say about that? GOOD. Who cares. I am happy, healthy, life is good, and that’s all that matters.
It’s one thing to want to lose weight, be more fit, gain muscle, eat healthier, whatever your goal is. But to want to achieve the impossible, to obsess and obsess over something that may not ever happen for you, this is not fair to your body. And it’s especially not fair to your mind. Because we all know there are more important things in life than obsessing over whether or not your thighs touch, how much you weigh, or generally what you look like. Right? Don’t we all know this? These things are not the things that define who we are!
Don’t eat all the crap all the time, and be active. I think that’s all we can do. Enjoy your life! That’s my goal, to enjoy my life. And if my thighs touch, so be it. And if lululemon pants aren’t for me because of my thunder thighs, that’s fine. I’ll squeeze my giant touching thighs into several pairs of pants that I got elsewhere, for the same amount of money as one of the fancy pairs. Pants that will ACCEPT and LOVE my thighs for what they are.
And if I weigh a little more because I enjoy spending time out with my friends eating pizza, drinking wine, not thinking about calories, and LIVING MY LIFE, fabulous. To me it’s worth it.
(Edit: Just want to add, if you naturally have a thigh gap that’s totally cool, no judgment here. My point is don’t stress over something that’s unrealistic for you. So in your case, don’t obsess and obsess over getting your thighs to touch, it might not ever happen.)